Someone asked me recently how I would define an abie. What a great question, I thought, and decided to post my thoughts on it here, so you all could enjoy them…and could chime in, if you like! You know your thoughts are always welcome with me.
I’ll start with this comparison: all abies want a Mommy, but not everyone with a Mommy fetish is an abie. For example, some boys like to have sex with a Mommy or a pregnant woman, but I wouldn’t consider those individuals to be abies. They have Mommy fetishes (as every abie does!), but they often have no particular interest themselves in being treated like a baby or child. At least, they don’t have an interest beyond using that role as a pretext to get verrrrry close to the Mommy—after which they really have little interest in maintaining the baby role, because they would much rather take sexual advantage of a Mommy! In fact, what completely differentiates them from true abies is that they are rarely interested in feeling much shame themselves.
Also, not everyone who loves to be dressed up in baby clothes by a woman is an abie. For example, some boys (or girlies!) are sexually excited by babying treatments mainly because those are a type of sensual humiliation which demonstrates that the fetishist isn’t a “real” man. However, those folks are focused not on the forced babyfication itself, but rather on the implication that they aren’t equal to other adults!
By contrast, those I consider true abies are, of course, sensually humiliated by their forced babyfication or sissybabyfication…however, they honestly relish all the trappings of babyhood! The mittens, the booties, their bottle or dummy, their diaper and plastic pants, even their favorite bunny diaper pins—abies want the fantasy that they are babies because they wish they could be babies forever. And they don’t just want to be called babies…they want to be as babyfied as possible, because life as a baby is inherently satisfying to them!
Now of course, in my role as a fetish phone sex Mommy, I work with both of the types of callers that I just mentioned in the last two paragraphs. And both those are fun—don’t get me wrong! But I recognize that each type sees a different purpose for the babyfication aspects of the call, which means that I focus on lots of talk about the meaning of the babyfication with the former group…and on the babyfication process itself with the latter group.
And that’s how Mommy Natalie keeps all her sweet babies happy and cooing…
Dear Naterwee,
I’m just one ickle baby gurl and I’m sure that you have spoken to many abies. I suppose there were several “humiliating” episodes that fixed being babified in my mind so many years ago. Those incidents, I believe, provided the humiliation that wanting to be back in diapers or treated like a baby relieved. I never thought that being a baby again and again was my conscious effort to relive that humiliation. This is what makes your stated pemise so interesting. For me the babying provides an escape from the pressures of adulthood. I’m sure there is a psycho-sexual connection between a male using the same part of his anatomy to ejaculate and urinate. Both offer a feeling of relief, but the one just happens and the other is fraught with complications. I often wonder if puberty and the realization that a sexual life was going to be far more complicated drove me to seek out the baby wetting as a suitable substitute. (Though I did have baby desires that I vividly remember from age 4 or 5 that certainly pre-dated my sexual maturity.)
It is so nice of you to explore this topic for us. I have often wondered if knowing the “why” of my fetishes would diminish them. I hope not because they are so much fun!
baby susie
You are most welcome, dear susie. I enjoy being a thoughtful Mommy, after all!
And thank you in return for sharing what the babying means and has meant to you. The more I understand my babies, the more immersive a Mommying experience I can provide, as I think you have found!
You shall have to let me know how my musings on the “why” of them affect your fetishes! Though so far, in our calls, it seems that exploring the origins…has only added to the depth of your experience.
Wouldn’t I love having a spontaneous orgasm admidst one of our calls! Several years ago, I got so turned on rehashing a call with Tessa here at LDW as I lay in bed that it caused me to have a “nocturnal emission”—that was a first! Mentally I can work myself into a state that is indistinguishable between sexual arousal and total lack thereof. It is a state of sublime association with the babified world I can, of course, only find in my mind. I think this explains why our best sessions are when I am just listening and can put my whole focus on your words, your tone without the distraction of my actually engaging in some accompanying activity. To get so lost in the world you create that I coo in agreement or fall asleep or wet my diaper….that is when it is just wonderful.
Thank you very much Mommy Natalie:) I definately do enjoy the sharing of this perception. Being a nonbaby diaper lover is probably the only fetish I have that confuses me. hehe